{"id":222081,"date":"2015-09-13T16:21:18","date_gmt":"2015-09-13T20:21:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/yfiledev.uit.yorku.ca\/?p=222081"},"modified":"2025-04-02T10:20:46","modified_gmt":"2025-04-02T14:20:46","slug":"students-learn-to-say-yes-to-consent","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.yorku.ca\/yfile\/2015\/09\/13\/students-learn-to-say-yes-to-consent\/","title":{"rendered":"Students learn to say 'yes' to consent"},"content":{"rendered":"

Say \u2018yes\u2019 to consent.<\/p>\n

\"Mike

Mike Domitrz<\/p><\/div>\n

That was the advice relationship expert Mike Domitrz offered thousands of frosh on Tuesday when he led York University\u2019s annual You Had Me At Consent<\/a> event for students new to the university.<\/p>\n

Domitrz, a leading authority on safe dating and healthy communication around sex, is the founder of The DATE SAFE Project. He spent the afternoon at York U highlighting the importance of respect and consent.<\/p>\n

The event was sponsored\u00a0by the University\u2019s Centre for Human Rights, and this year it was organized\u00a0as part of\u00a0York Orientation Day<\/a>.<\/p>\n

This year\u2019s audience of incoming students heard Domitrz\u2019s signature presentation \u201cCan I Kiss You?,\u201d which explores all the reasons why the majority of the population doesn\u2019t ask for consent in sexual situations, but should.<\/p>\n

\"Mike<\/a>

Mike Domitrz presented his \"Can I Kiss You?\" presentation during York U's You Had Me at Consent event, Tuesday (photo supplied by SCLD)<\/p><\/div>\n

Reading body language and making assumptions is dangerous, he said; asking for consent, however, gives a person a choice and leads to a much healthier sexual experience.<\/p>\n

He shared with the audience a personal story about when he was in university and learned that his sister had been raped. He told the crowd that his first reaction was that he wanted the offender \u201cdead,\u201d to which the audience agreed this would be a \u201cnormal\u201d response.<\/p>\n

\u201cBut are we hypocrites if we want the rapist dead after the rape, but don\u2019t want to do anything to stop it from happening?,\u201d he posed. \u201cI don\u2019t want to be that hypocrite.\u201d<\/p>\n

Intervening when danger is present at parties and group settings or when alcohol is involved is just as important, and can prevent a sexual assault from happening. Persons under the influence, he suggested, are not able to give consent \u2013 even if they may say \"yes.\"<\/p>\n

He has spent more than 15 years inspiring students on healthier dating and communication. Part of the program is spent bringing volunteers up on stage to act out scenarios, to provide an engaging and interactive experience.<\/p>\n

York believes that consent and awareness about sexual violence is a key message. You Had Me At Consent is an opportunity to establish norms and expectations about respect that are in line with York\u2019s values and commitment to create a safe learning, living and community environment for all students.<\/p>\n

In February 2015, the Board of Governors of York University passed the newly developed Policy on Sexual Assault Awareness, Prevention, and Response. York has also launched a dedicated webpage on the prevention of and response to sexual violence<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Counsellors from Personal Counselling Services and peer support volunteers from Sexual Assault Survivor\u2019s Support Line & Leadership (SASSL) were\u00a0on hand during the presentation to offer support to students.<\/p>\n

For more on the Centre for Human Rights, visit rights.info.yorku.ca<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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